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Taking a Summer Break

Sam 0:02

hello , welcome to episode 33 of the manifestation pod . We are slightly behind schedule , but we are here . Hi louise , hi you . Okay , good , I'm good . How are you ?

Louise 0:16

yes , I'm good . Um , I'm trying to think what we talked about on our last pod and where we got up to , but we've had half term . I've just come back from a week in France which was delightful , um , yeah , just plodding on really doing what I was doing . I'm just on holiday , catch up this week . Um , you know what it's like when you come back and you don't know you don't have to see your job anymore . Yeah , you don't know who you are . Um , yeah , so I'm just catching up . I've had quite a busy weekend as well , but not all weekend , which has been lovely , doing nice things with nice people . So , yeah , that's good . I've got more of that after this today , so , yeah , it's a good day and did you hit the beach ?

Sam 1:02

was it sunny and lovely ?

Louise 1:05

yes , it was beautiful and you know what ? We didn't even go to the beach while we were there , which feels on every level wrong . Um , but the people that we met last year were there this year and we spent the first three days with them , because then they were going home , um , so we were just like at the pool and doing stuff and that was lovely . But then it's been upgraded the park since last year and we upgraded our accommodation as well , so that was lovely . But they've built like what can only be described as a man-made beach on the park , even though it's got its own access to a private beach which is , you know , the real beach with the sea , and I do love the sea . I can't believe I didn't go , but anyway , um , there was a man-made beach and it was like two minutes from where we were staying , so we spent loads of time there . There was like a man-made . It was called the laguna , so it was like a man-made pool pond yeah it was gorgeous , gorgeous .

Louise 2:01

Yeah , it was lovely did lots of swimming . It was very , very nice , very hot , but with a breeze , so I felt like we could do lots and lots of things . We went on a bike ride into the town , we had a lovely lunch , and then I got diarrhoea and had a pair of white shorts on , so we had to cycle half an hour .

Louise 2:23

You know it happened to me . It was so funny . Charlotte was like mummy , are you okay ? Are you okay ? Not because she cared , but she was just really worried about some kind of you know poo accident down mummy's leg because at the age of 11 , that's the worst thing that could happen to you . So yeah , that was an interesting day . Yeah , I had diarrhea on day five . That was lovely .

Sam 2:43

Oh my goodness , bless you . We haven't even had a chance to catch up about this , have we ?

Louise 2:48

No , no , it was quite funny . Yeah , so , yeah , yeah , everything's really good . Yeah , I feel quite refreshed . I've come back as well to loads of changes in my day job , which has completely reinvigorated me . I've had the best week ever at work .

Sam 3:04

That's good .

Louise 3:05

Yeah , yeah , it's really weird . It's thrown me a little bit because I'm really enjoying it . Yeah , I've had a great , great week at work .

Sam 3:14

Nice , well , that's good , that's good . Well , my half term wasn't anywhere near as exciting , but it was nice . It feels like ages ago now because we only had the week , so ours was like two months ago , wasn't it ? So , um , yeah , it was good , I don't know . It's been strange times energetically . I think we were talking about this before , weren't we ? Yeah , a little bit stuck and sluggish in some ways , and then some really good stuff's happening with the yoga nidra as well . So , yeah , I had a really good day . On friday I did um , a taster session of the yoga nidra with a networking group called loop in chesterfield , and it was lovely . It was the biggest group I've done yoga nidra with um , so it was really nice . I could . I saw , like afterwards , just the difference in people's faces .

Sam 4:10

You can like see they've refreshed themselves almost like yeah , woken up from a big sleep and so that was really nice . Loads of really lovely supportive feedback . Like you know , when women support other women , isn't it amazing ?

Louise 4:27

yeah , we see a lot of that , don't we ? You know um lives at the moment , but it's funny , like what you've just said , about seeing it on people's faces . I'm very like that with money . As soon as someone sorts out the money , you can see they look like they've had a facelift .

Sam 4:41

It really does lift them yeah , yeah , isn't it magical seeing that transformation that you've not happened ?

Louise 4:48

absolutely yeah yeah , it really is . Um . Yeah , to have an impact , to make a difference to somebody . It's funny I was watching um . Do you watch long lost family sometimes ? I've not watched it for ages .

Sam 5:01

I do like I haven't . I don't think it's been on for ages .

Louise 5:03

But anyway , me and Charlotte love it . Um , charlotte loves a bit of drama and I just like it because it's it's quite feel good in the main . But there was , there was one that stuck in my mind . That was um a woman who was I think she was like 65 and she'd given up her son and and when she was telling the story she looked haggard , she looked like she'd had the hardest life ever and when she met a son who was now like I don't know , I think he was in his 50s she was a really young parent and she gave him up . She looked like she'd had surgery . Her face was completely different . I've never seen such a physical transformation of anyone who hasn't had a physical transformation . Um , yeah , it was amazing . It's amazing what kind of stress and worry and trauma can do to your face yeah , it's mad when you think about it , really isn't it ?

Sam 5:53

yeah , so shall we confess what today's episode is about and what we've talked about just before ? Yeah , you do it so today's episode may or may not be called we are on a break because we're going to take a summer break from the pod . So in ross from friends style break .

Louise 6:17

We are on a break , but we're not going to sleep with other people no , no , not that kind of break .

Sam 6:24

We've just been thinking and you may have picked up on it or you may have , not that , um , it's time to have a little rest with the pod . Time to , um , enjoy the summer with the kids . We've got two daughters starting high school in september .

Choosing Peace and Mindfulness

Sam 6:39

Summer's coming up and we're just not finding the energy we need to give to the pod right now . We've got loads of great ideas about like what would be more useful for everyone else . Listening , haven't we ? And we're finding the energy to bring that to the pod at the moment .

Louise 6:55

So it's time for a break yeah , I think we don't want to do it in a kind of half-assed way of coming on and recording . I think it's probably felt like that last couple of episodes , maybe that it's become a little bit of a oh , we've not done the pod , we need to do the pod and it's something else that we need to fit in , and I feel it's become like , um , a job I don't mean a job like a paid job , but a job like , oh , I need to clean the bathroom , oh , we need to record a pod episode , a little bit like that . And that was never what it was about . It was about this is absolutely not living our best lives if we feel like that .

Louise 7:29

So , yeah , a break would be good , but it's not a break from each other , it's not that kind of break . We've not fell out . No , there's been no breakup , no cheating , nothing like that . We're just going to have a break and do and maybe like , concentrate on our friendship as well and do some nice things together , because we don't get much time for that anymore . We've done a few things with the girls lately . In fact , I think the last three times we've seen each other we've just done things with the girls , maybe even four , and we don't see each other that often . So , yeah , that'd be quite nice to do the stuff that we used to do , which was going to a yoga trauma class or you know , seeing these things that are very different , and thinking , oh yeah , let's try that , that'd be fun , um , so yeah , we might come back all refreshed , rejuvenated and full of fresh content because of the amazing summer we're going to have , because I do think the weather is going to change .

Sam 8:23

Yeah , yeah , it probably will , I imagine . So Like it's got to , hasn't it ? It's , yeah , it's due to change , isn't it ? And if we spend the summer just doing joyful things together and having fun , I'm sure we'll come up with more ideas and creativity .

Louise 8:41

And , yeah , what we want to do with the pod next , absolutely , and I think it will be good to bring some and , yeah , a different vibe maybe . So , yeah , let's see see what happens , what happens ?

Sam 8:55

um , I had something really insightful to say and it's gone . So yeah , pretty much sums up the energy .

Louise 9:03

Maybe we could write these things down in preparation for the relaunch of the new pod so that we don't forget things . I was , I was , um , gonna tell you about something funny that happened before I went on holiday . So we flew on the . Was it Sunday ? Yeah .

Louise 9:19

So I went swimming on the Tuesday and I was very conscious that it was my last swim on my own , without Charlotte and a load of kids in the pool , so I really wanted to enjoy it . I did loads of swimming on holiday , but not like I do at the baths where I'm just doing lengths . It was all more fun swimming . So , anyway , on the Tuesday I thought , right , I'll go for a swim in the morning , like I do . Um , and there was like drama going on at the pool and all I wanted was just a dead quiet swim . Because I just lose myself , I switch off . I don't have many thoughts when I'm swimming , which I quite enjoy . It's a real downtime and I love it . But there was this drama going on . So when you do lane swimming , you swim in a . I'm having to really think about this clockwise um . We like little fishy swimming around in a clockwise direction and , because of the times I go , it's usually pretty empty , but anyway , I went on this Tuesday so we're all swimming in a clockwise direction . Pretty much everyone does front crawl or breast stroke and goes forwards , but every so often I do a . I don't do a backstroke because I'm too lazy , but I flip over because my neck aches and I just do a couple of lengths laying on my back and doing some kind of crazy doggy paddle , not not very much , but just going up and down , anyway . So we were doing that as normal , the same people go . So I just say morning to people and that's it .

Louise 10:39

I've got no friends swimming and there was a woman who was swimming in the middle of the clockwise circle , just up and down , but doing backstrokes . So she was splashing everybody and it was a little bit inconvenient . It was probably a little bit selfish , for want of a better word , um , but you know , whatever it was fine . But as I was looping around , depending on the speed you're swimming , you kind of see the same people all the time . So sometimes people stop for a break at each end and every time I went to this end there were some women there that were clearly unhappy with what was going on with this woman swimming , and every time I passed them they were like have you seen her ? She splashed you before , didn't , didn't she ? And I was just like , oh , yeah , yeah , carried on swimming , didn't stop near them . But they were really trying desperately to involve everybody in hating this woman who was just doing backstroke up and down Again . You know she probably needed to go in the loop like the rest of us , but again , whatever , I just wanted to lose myself .

Louise 11:44

So on the third one , the third time , I went round and these women were like absolutely raging . Then another woman came in and she'd not even got in the pool and they were like have you seen her ? Have you seen ? And she's not even got in the pool . They were like have you seen her ? Have you seen what she's doing over there ? Look at her . She's so selfish . The guards told me off for doing that last week . The lifeguards , but they're not even bothering with her . It's a disgrace . Yada , yada .

Louise 12:04

So I'm really trying to maintain this , like zen , like swim , I'm really trying to have . And I went past again and they were like do you think we should complain ? And I just went I'm choosing happiness and I just carried on swimming and they just ignored me after that . But what was interesting was and I think it's a proper woman character characteristic rather than a male one if people aren't happy , they love to get everybody involved in their unhappiness and I think we're all a bit guilty of that . Sometimes it feels quite nice to have a bit of a bitch sometimes about people , but it was so nice not to be involved in that kind of conversation . And I'm really trying to . I really try not to bitch about people anyway , but I think sometimes it slips in without me realizing it .

Louise 12:58

In situations like that not with strangers , but maybe at work if somebody's moaning about someone , they try and get you to be involved in that and sometimes I can be guilty of that . So I'm going to make a real effort to do that and I'm also making an effort with like my language in front of Charlotte , particularly when I'm driving . I don't mean like swearing , but calling people idiots in the car because they're not doing what I want them to do . And now she does it . The minute someone does something in another car , she's like , oh my God , look at him , what an idiot . And I'm like , oh dear God , that's me . And look at him , what's an idiot ? And I'm like , oh , dear god , that's me and I'm really trying to . I think some of it is living life 100 miles an hour . Yeah , you kind of forget the basic stuff of being nice and being kind all of the time . We're all nice and kind to our friends and our family , but being nice to strangers and being kind to strangers I'm going to embrace that yeah , absolutely .

Sam 13:51

You get to choose your reaction in that moment , don't you what you gravitate towards , and you chose happiness because that's what you wanted . You don't have to feed into other people's energies , do you ?

Louise 14:06

no , and it felt quite not empowering that's the wrong word , but I can't think of the word it just felt nice doing that , it was , it was over and done with and I'd forgotten about it . Then I went back to just doing my zen like swim yeah , yeah .

Sam 14:24

I think it shows you're in a really good mind space when , like you say , you slow down and you can think about what you want from that day and choose it at all costs , even when the world is like , come on , get involved in this drama , get involved in this aggro , come on , and you're actually like , no , I'm choosing different yeah , I choose peace and I feel like that with a lot of things at the moment , I'm just anything that has brought bad energy .

Louise 14:50

I'm not down with that anymore at all . I've just got good energy around me and I'm really protective of that now . And I think I'm going to say this because you know , we're honest , aren't we ? But I think , since me and Matthew have split up , I'm realising how much energy went into that relationship . That wasn't good and I'm really enjoying being on my own and having that peace .

Sam 15:13

Yeah , yeah , and I'm really enjoying being on my own and having

Embracing Change and Choosing Peace

Sam 15:15

that peace . Yeah , yeah , and I think the more of the energy you protect , the more you detect the bad energy and repel it , because then you see it for what it is . So , yeah , avoid it at like all costs . Yeah , and it's not like you ignore the rest of the world . You know there's , you know there's bad stuff going on everywhere .

Louise 15:36

It's not about ignoring it , but it's having enough peace within yourself to see outside of the problem and not yeah , absolutely , and I think now I'm away from it , I definitely see that and I value the peace that I've got and I feel like so years ago I don't even know whether I've even ever said this to you , but I used to um laughingly say that I lived in Lululand and in Lululand it was all very positive and happy and , you know , nothing really bad happened , because it was always good energy and positivity and and I feel like I'm back there at the moment I feel like I'm very much in Lululand and the people that are in Lululand have been invited and deserve their place there , and other people have been expelled and they're not coming back , because I really do value the peace that I've got .

Sam 16:31

Yeah , yeah , same . I'm absolutely the same and you know I've had to cut um people out of my life this year . That um have been very hard to cut out , not that I was particularly close to , but just kept bringing bad energy . And I think when you can be intentional in everything going around on around you and be thinking about it , be mindful of it , then you can protect your energy it's it's really hard .

Sam 17:03

It takes a lot of like hard choices and sort of kind of a vigilance of it as well , but it's so worth it to keep your peace it is .

Louise 17:16

Yeah , and I think in the past there's been a little bit of I don't know sometimes when you feel like you've been unfairly treated . You're there's been times when you want to stick up for yourself and tell people kind of your side of the story and what really happened . But that's just being drawn back into it and I think sometimes you just need to and I'm very much in this situation now I've drawn a line , I've moved on and if people I'm very much in this situation now I've drawn a line , I've moved on and if people I'm talking specifically people in Matthew's camp really they don't know me , they just know things that he said post-breakup and I feel like there's part of me that thinks that's really unfair . But I feel quite happy with my choice to just think so what , I don't care what people think about me . The people that I care about their thoughts on me are the people that know me , my friends . I've got a very close , tight circle of friends .

Louise 18:35

But yeah , it's funny , I've been in this position before , not with a partner , actually , but with someone who treated me unfairly a long time ago , um , and I got the backlash for something that absolutely wasn't my fault and the only reason that everyone thinks it is is because I didn't drop him in it . Um , it was a family member , so everyone thinks I'm the bad guy and he was really the bad guy , but I just never told that secret . Um , and yeah , it feels in a bit of a similar situation at the moment . It's strange , but yeah , I'm choosing peace .

Sam 19:06

It's nice , yeah , exactly , you can either fuel the fire or choose Pete . Yeah , makes a lot of sense . I mean , I was thinking , when we're coming to do the pod today , normally at this point we'd be like checking on the mid-year goals how are we doing against them and and all of that , and just not feeling that at all . No , not those goals , but just not feeling in that kind of space like that go , getting you know , really driving everything forward , kind of space .

Louise 19:44

It feels like then there needs to be a little bit of rest before going back to those yeah , I feel like that as well and I feel like I need to revisit my goals , because some of the goals I had , I'm just not feeling it now . So , yeah , I feel like we both said . You know , we feel like change is a bit imminent . So let's see what summer brings , and maybe , when the weather changes as well , that might bring its own , because you do feel better when the sun's out , don't you ? You feel completely positive and motivated . I mean , I'm looking out the window . It's absolutely throwing it down again . My garden is like a jungle because I just can't do it , because it's just not been dry long enough to get the lawnmower out . Yeah , I'm quite excited about this change .

Sam 20:28

It's funny that and we've not discussed this- but we're both going through it exactly the same time and we only found that out this morning , I know , like literally before we came on the pod . It's funny , funny . But yeah , then actually , when you make a decision and create some space , it starts to become a bit exciting of like , oh , what's going to come into that space ? You know what I'm going ?

Louise 20:50

to do what my ideas .

Sam 20:50

Am I going to have what's going to come into that space ? You know what I'm going to discover , what my ideas am I going to have what's going to happen ?

Louise 20:55

yeah , because when you make a space , the universe fills it . So , yeah , that is exciting . I'm definitely feeling that at the moment . I'm feeling like something's very much in the air .

Sam 21:03

I just don't know what it is I know , and what's lovely about the pod is like there's a simplicity to it in that you know me and you communicate really well . No matter how you know little time we get with each other , we do communicate well , so it's easy like it felt easy to just say that I wish everything else in our lives was as simple we'd be bored .

Louise 21:28

I'd be so bored with a simple life . It's just not the life I've led .

Sam 21:33

No , no , no , it's true

Setting Intentions for a Refreshing Break

Sam 21:35

. Just think about , you know , when you want to make changes in other places , if you could just like say I don't want to do that anymore and I'm taking a break and move on , how nice it would be . Yeah , maybe I'll find some space for that over the summer .

Louise 21:52

Yeah , Well , maybe that's your starting point . You know , think about what you don't want what you do want , and how to bring more of it into your life .

Sam 22:01

Yeah , yeah , absolutely Shall we leave it there then .

Louise 22:06

Yeah , that sounds like a nice positive end to our episode 33 . And who knows when episode 34 will be ? When it will be , I can't even speak . It's probably good for a break with the pod , just so I can articulate myself better . Honest to God .

Sam 22:23

Me too . We hope you have a very intentional , joy-filled summer , and we will be back at some point soon . Bye , bye .